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The Doula: Peer, Companion, Lay Woman or A Birth Support Professional?

I wanted to quit, but I discovered coaching and got excited again about being a doula.

After a decade of practicing as a doula and childbirth educator, I was about to quit. I was burnt-out. The rising rate of medical interventions led me to doubt my ability to fulfill my role and facilitate healthy and positive birth experiences. Additionally, the growing gap between doulas’ approach to childbirth and the approach held by the medical caregivers that our clients trust for their journey, triggered a lot of tension in me. These circumstances, in addition to the given hardship of the doula practice, made me reconsider my career path. Ten years have passed since I felt under-resourced and I still enjoy practicing as a doula and training doulas. How did this happen? I discovered coaching! In the last couple of years, I have come to learn that I am not the only one to have gone through this professional struggle. In spite of  ACOG’s recognition of doulas’  benefits and some big headlines reporting the many celebrities who hire doulas for their birth,  doulas experience a few major dilemmas that cause great hardship.
This uneasiness reflects in social media and doulas’ blog posts, and I can sense the confusion, frustration, and disputes that percolate within the doula community. Being passionate about doulas and our valuable stewardship position,  I’d like to share my  personal path that helped me resolve the three major dilemmas doulas face: 

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How Doulas Can Align the Vision, Beliefs and Actions of Expectant Moms (or How to Close the Gaps? )

Doulas often feel that they are accountable for their client’s positive and healthy birth experience. While this is somehow true, it certainly does not dismiss the couple’s efforts to achieve their desired birth experience. The presence of a doula at the birth should not by itself be perceived as a guarantee to a healthy and active childbirth. When couples choose not to engage in other types of labor support and preparation activities such as pregnancy physical activity, prenatal yoga, or childbirth education classes, there is a high chance that the doula will be the only one accountable for their positive birth experience. In this case, both parties risk a complicated relationship which might involve disappointment and lead to a non-satisfying birth experience.

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Resolving the Advocacy Dilemma in the Doula Practice – Webinar

The advocacy dilemma in the field of childbirth support is a tough one to crack. The dilemma lies in the tension between certain components of birth support practice, such as serving and supporting, and other components such as being a change agent in our society and a birth activist. By relying on coaching principles and strategies, I suggest that you can be sure to practice within your scope of practice and to refrain from projecting or engaging any ‘activists agenda’ in your relationships with your birth clients. Coaching is the pathway to client-centered relationships and care.

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Who is Accountable for Your Client’s Positive Birth? Experience?

Is your birth client as accountable as you are for her birth process?

A couple of days ago I had a beautiful mentoring session with two local doulas; we will call them Iris and Lily.  We were going over some challenging cases they experienced recently and exploring how the Birth Coach Method’s strategies and tools help.  Pretty early in our discussion, I learned that their ‘typical birth clients’ represent some degree of polarity: Iris works only with clients who are strongly committed to an unmedicated birth.  She feels that potential clients who are “willing to try [birthing] with no epidural but leave themselves open to the option of taking it” are not a good match for her.  Lily said that her clients are hiring her in order to “Check the box” of doula services; meaning that they read the statistics showing doulas reduce cesarean rates and they are hiring her to avoid a cesarean.  

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Does Birth Activism Lead Expectant Individuals to Demand Better Maternal Care?

Recently I watched the movie ‘Trial of Labor’, and listened to the stories of three women who wished for a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean). It made doubt the approach we, birth activists, take in our efforts to improve maternal care. Especially our continuous attempts to educate and empower expectant individuals by pointing out the flaws of the medical system and its representatives.

What did birth activism look like in the 90s?

I gave birth to my oldest child in 1995. I often say that she was my muse since my first pregnancy and birth experience led me to pursue a career in the field of birth support. I was lucky to go through this journey in the 1990s, as it seems that these years offered women a wealth of information about natural childbirth: Barbara Harper first published Gentle Birth Choices in 1994, the same exact year that Michel Odent published his book – Birth Reborn. Janet Balaskas published Active Birth in 1992, and Marshal H. Klaus published Mothering the Mother in 1993. Henci Goer closed the 1990s by publishing The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth in 1999. All of these authors were, and still, are my teachers and mentors, not to mention idols.

How do childbirth educators and doulas use all these resources?

Who can read Harper distinguishes myth from truth about childbirth, and continue to obey the medical authority?

As a childbirth educator, I was referring my students to the books mentioned above as resources. I was thinking – well, who can read chapter 2 in Harper’s book, where she describes the medicalization of childbirth and distinguishes myth from truth about birth, and still obey the medical authority? (Harper, 1994, pp. 51-91). Since 2002, I opened every class that I ever taught about ‘Common medical interventions in childbirth’ presenting Goer’s remarkable observation, at the beginning of her book, that “Obstetric practice does not reflect the research evidence because obstetricians actually base their practices on a set of predetermined beliefs”. (Goer, 1999, p. 3) Again, I was thinking: who can read this statement and the evidence-based information that follows, which refutes the notion that obstetricians practice is evidence-based, and still blindly follow medical advice?

What did birth activism look like since the beginning of the second millennia?

At the beginning of the second millennia, we took birth activism to the movies: Birth as we know it was released in 2006, Pregnant in America was released in 2008, at the same year as The business of being born. Laboring under illusion was made in 2009, and Orgasmic Birth was released in 2008. One would assume that movies are reaching the mass more than books, and expect better results in terms of educating couples about childbirth and leading them to make informed choices, and yet we saw no change in the anticipated direction. After 20 years of birth activism, the statistics of medical interventions in Labor and Delivery are disheartening; the high rates of augmentations and inductions, epidurals, cesareans, and the low rates of VBAC’s and home births break my heart. I believe that many fellow childbirth educators and doulas feel the same way when they think of all the couples they taught or supported that ended up with a cesarean or came back home from a long-lasting birth that strayed from their birth plan. So maybe it is time to take a different approach in order to create the change we strive for?

What’s holding them from making better choices that are based on the evidence-based information we share?

So why are they still not making better choices?

It wasn’t until I became a life coach that I was able to put the finger on what it is that is missing. It is not by means of sharing our knowledge that we can lead a change, but rather by evoking the change in them.  I’m going to paraphrase here on Goer’s observation regarding obstetricians, and apply it to couples as they prepare for childbirth: “Parents’ choices in childbirth do not reflect the knowledge we share with them, because parents actually base their choices on a set of predetermined beliefs.” Just like the evidenced-based knowledge suggested by studies in the field of birth didn’t change obstetricians’ practice, it can’t lead parents to change the choices they make. There is a need for a different mechanism than teaching evidence-based information in order to create change because change is not achieved by the practice of informing, but by the practice of coaching.

Parents’ choices in childbirth do not reflect the knowledge we share with them because they  base their choices on a set of predetermined beliefs

What makes coaching a better practice to evoke this change?

Here are a few differences between teaching, informing and coaching, that might explain my choice to integrate coaching in my practice:

  • The educator is an expert in a field of knowledge.  The coach is an expert in an area of practice, or performance.
  • The educator is delivering a body of knowledge, informing. The coach is providing tools and strategies to enhance the performance in the desired area.
  •  The relationship between the educator and the student is hierarchic, meaning that the educator is an authority, holding a body of knowledge that the student does not possess. In coaching, the relationship is more like a partnership, with the client’s goals, and her journey to reach them, being at the center of the partnership.
  • Educators mostly share information students are interested in and answer students’ questions.  Coaches are mostly asking questions. The coach’s questions facilitate clarity about the client’s goals, needs, and belief system. The coach might also suggest options to reach these goals while staying in alignment with the client’s truth about the area of practice and about herself.
  • Both educators and coaches assign tasks to their clients, but of a different type. The educator assigns tasks that will enhance a better understanding of the matter at hand and the expansion of knowledge.  The coach assigns tasks that will evoke better performance and functioning.

Looking at these practices, which one do you think is a better practice in order to invite the change in the field of childbirth?  Coaching makes so much sense when we acknowledge that individuals’ choices in childbirth are based on predetermined beliefs rather than on knowledge. Coaching is the art of helping others to adopt new concepts and perspectives in order to meet their desired goals. The new concepts will serve our clients better and will allow them to adopt new habits of behaving and responding. There are many predetermined beliefs, or myth, that can sabotage a healthy birth. Many of them are part of our collective unconscious, inherited from our ancestors through cellular memory – childbirth used to be a dangerous life experience!  Adopting new perspectives and patterns of behavior will allow both expectant parents and obstetricians to make better choices in childbirth.

If you want to learn how to integrate coaching strategies into your birth support practice, I invite you to join our Birth Support Coaching Course and bring on the change!

 

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